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I am a single male in recovery (recovery from an addiction to alcohol) and very active member of the BM Community (this year will be my fourth burn). I have a mild form of HFA (high-functioning autism).
For the first time in my life, I am actually starting to get very interesting in getting relationships with the opposite sex. My social skills and self-confidence has significantly increased since I got sober. In addition, my relationships within the community have gotten signfiicantly better since I got clean. (Note: The community has been especially supportive in my recovery)
I am the point in my life where I trying to look for a relationship. My regional (Orange County) does not have any single women that are eligible right now (our community is a great community, super tight-knit but small). They are significantly larger communities in LA and San Diego. I am not active in the LA community, but very active in the San Diego community.
As I look around for relationship, should I try to look within the community? Are Burners are destined to get in relationships with Burners? With my conditions, are Burners going to be more open and accepting of these conditions? Would a person outside the community would be a mismatch because they are not as accepting and tolerant as Burner would be? Since all of my close friends are Burners, would a woman outside of community would have hard time going to Burner events and willing to accept going to the Burn? Would the woman accept the fact that I have to go to three to five twelve-step meetings weekly for the rest of my life? Would the woman accept that I have minor disablity that affects me with my independent living skills and my social skills (even though I am working very hard to improve them)
They are lot of strong points that I do offer: stable job with a very good salary, open-mindness, unconditional love, living life with no resentments, emotional stablity achieved through strong support group, strong sense of fiedlity and brutal honesty, not being manipulative, serenity, devoted to living life on the ten principles of Burning Man, uber well-informed on politics and culture, and of course many other qualities that I do not have time to discuss.
I just want some advice so I do not waste time on the Meet Market. And I especially encourge advice from females within the community.
For the first time in my life, I am actually starting to get very interesting in getting relationships with the opposite sex. My social skills and self-confidence has significantly increased since I got sober. In addition, my relationships within the community have gotten signfiicantly better since I got clean. (Note: The community has been especially supportive in my recovery)
I am the point in my life where I trying to look for a relationship. My regional (Orange County) does not have any single women that are eligible right now (our community is a great community, super tight-knit but small). They are significantly larger communities in LA and San Diego. I am not active in the LA community, but very active in the San Diego community.
As I look around for relationship, should I try to look within the community? Are Burners are destined to get in relationships with Burners? With my conditions, are Burners going to be more open and accepting of these conditions? Would a person outside the community would be a mismatch because they are not as accepting and tolerant as Burner would be? Since all of my close friends are Burners, would a woman outside of community would have hard time going to Burner events and willing to accept going to the Burn? Would the woman accept the fact that I have to go to three to five twelve-step meetings weekly for the rest of my life? Would the woman accept that I have minor disablity that affects me with my independent living skills and my social skills (even though I am working very hard to improve them)
They are lot of strong points that I do offer: stable job with a very good salary, open-mindness, unconditional love, living life with no resentments, emotional stablity achieved through strong support group, strong sense of fiedlity and brutal honesty, not being manipulative, serenity, devoted to living life on the ten principles of Burning Man, uber well-informed on politics and culture, and of course many other qualities that I do not have time to discuss.
I just want some advice so I do not waste time on the Meet Market. And I especially encourge advice from females within the community.
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