With football, wives/girlfriends of rabid fans are known as "football widows"...

It may be time for the ol' pros vs. cons list.

well, are ya just "whining" or do ya really want some input?

frankly, if the game is one night, and its a must do and see for him, maybe ya can shift your plans to compromise and do something the next night....

if you had something you were REALLY into, and he wanted to change that, how would that feel for you..

it makes for better relations if ya can find a compromise that works, your relationship will go a lot further and everyone be happy if ya can find a place to meet and join rather than try to control what he does, or he control what you do...

everyone of us have something that means something to us and if we have to give it up it doesnt feel so great.. sometimes making the sacrifice is sweet, but not if it's an expectation...

try to allow him his space for his "obsession" and in return I would hope he would do the same for you if it can down to that....

for me it's all about Nascar, Damn I hate to miss a race, good thing for Tivo... but even so, its not live and I hate to miss it.. used to be football.. ahh well... anyway....

hope it all works out for ya.... I know it's not pleasant to give up the time ya want to spend with him, but having a talk about it and finsing the space ya both can live with will help, if that doesnt work for ya then maybe he isnt the right one.. <shrug>

Hope it all comes together...

Bare

And I do have to say, thank god it's *only* baseball and not any other sports.........

this is completely off-topic, but....

as soon as i read the first couple lines, the opening from "damn yankees" began to play in my head:
www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/da...ryyear.htm

my advice: be wary if he mentions anyone named lola.

.... and now back to other people's useful advice....

The Farrelly Brothers did a movie about this subject, called Fever Pitch, with Drew Barrymore and Jimmy Fallon -

www.imdb.com/title/tt0332047/

Might add some humor to the situation (for a little while, anyway!). Jimmy's character was waaaay too into the Red Sox.

i'm a baseball lover myself... i wasn't brought up with sports, and didn't even know the rules of baseball, but when i was 38 years old, a friend invited me and my family to share the box seats for her work event since they had extra tickets... i said "i don't like crowds or sports, so if i don't like it, can i leave and wait at the car?"... i laugh to think of it, because i walked in, saw that green field, and those hot guys, and fell in love.

within two years, i had begun to write a book about how to watch professional baseball (sadly, i never finished it), and went to 20 games a year... and if i wasn't there, i was either watching it or listening to it on the radio (which is really my favorite way, since the mind's eye is so much better than a tv screen to me). i started going to arizona in march for a week for spring training to see both the a's and the giants, then became a giants fan in 1989. i used to walk around with a tiny earplug wired behind my ear so i could be walking around and not missing a moment of the game. on the bus, at macy's, at work, at the flea market, there were moments i would yell out loud "yeah!" when someone hit a home run, and people would look at me like i had tourette's or something.

i have a feeling some of you who know me are saying... wtf? but i love that game, it really is america's pasttime. baseball rocks.

and i also know that you really cannot tell another person that the don't have to do something every day, if they think they want to. isn't that the goal in life, that we each get to decide what's fun, and then do that? someone who loves baseball loves baseball, and no one else gets a vote in it.

so i feel for your boyfriend, it's a passion. and yeah, it's six days a week for six months, which is a problem if he insists on watching every game as it's played. you definitely should be able to have time together that isn't dominated by baseball in the background or the foreground.

so what about tivo or some other way of recording the games? that would seem a fair compromise, then he never has to miss anything, and can watch the game later. you could set up a schedule so he'll know which games he wants to watch live, and work your other activities around that... and ask him if he'd be willing to record the games that conflict with your together-time so he still gets his fix. i'd say work on it now, because as you know already, it gets worse later in the season.

i wish you luck with that... i know my ex-husband was often dealing with the same thing, he had no interest in sports at all, and here his wife turns into one of those crazy sports fans on him! when someone invited me to a football game, i said no, that my marriage wouldn't have been able to take me into another major sport. no way. (plus i hate football :^)

My two cents is...peace will only be had with a non-sports partner, unless you are a sports chick. I finally found one. Couldn't be happier.

And the other ones were gay, in the bad-denial sort of way. Kidding, but you know what I mean. Chooch wins over anything on tv.

thank you everyone for your advice, comments and other input. we had a long conversation last night (after the game, of course) and i think, in the long run, we'll be able to work it out.

for tonight, he's coming over and making me dinner and we're going to try and find Fever Pitch (with limited interruptions to check the game score).

we both got a load off our shoulders, which was desperately needed on both our parts.

thanks so much for allowing me to vent a bit here so that i could talk to him reasonably last night.